Dear Ladies and Gentlemen,
I wanted to share with you a little joking my memories from my psychology studies. Going back to the Social Psychology classes, I was amused by the multitude of effects and possibly syndromes that this branch of psychology abounded in. I joked that I think every social psychologist must have their own effect. Many years after graduation, it turned out that I was not laughing in vain. Well, I made my own.
Observing socio-cultural situations, I can share with you my own observed social effect, quite dangerous in my opinion, and a syndrome, rather depressing.
The drowning effect – is a certain tendency of people in a difficult economic, mental and social situation to save themselves or their interests at the expense of other people who are nearby.
I observed it on the basis of social statistics on the average level of intelligence that characterizes us as a nation, which ranges approximately between 100-105 IQ. This applies to people who are often guided by an anti-social norm (i.e. I do not act to create a base for safety and health. The basis on which I rely is the social network, no matter what it is).
DDBR syndrome (Adult Child of Rich Parents) affects adults raised in very good economic conditions, but abandoned as children. Like any syndrome, it is a kind of bag of meanings (an umbrella term), which contains a lot of features, so it can be accused of being too general.
According to my definition, the above syndrome is an observation of certain tendencies in adults who, apart from the economic base, were not taken care of as children in terms of health (lack of time for parents), educational (the basis is money, so either push for prestige or not worry) and lacked emotional and mental support (a tragedy must occur in order for the environment to pay attention to the suffering of a given person).
These are often very abandoned people, left alone as children. If they are lucky, they create their own social support network in the environment in which they develop (they usually have passions and their own interests, e.g. related to a certain field of knowledge). They are often prone to addiction (especially since they can afford various types of substances) and adapt to their environments, which does not mean that they are well adapted to social norms as such.
In short, they are abandoned single children who, as adults, have to find their own definitions about love and relationships. They need to change their ideas about people. Find yourself and a way to mature the process of individuation (it can also be immature).
Often, such people are toxically dependent on their family of origin for a very long time and can enter into toxic relationships. Abuse and abandonment (i.e. psychological violence as a constant) are a certain norm for such people that they know. The basis for ties is financial resources and the usefulness of others.
Let’s remember that the lack of empathy and care by the family during adolescence does not bode well for such adults to feel empathy and desire to take care of others. Such people think of themselves more in the context of the social functions they perform (they assume the performance of tasks without responsibility) and not the social role (I do not decide anything because I do not take responsibility for it).
Even if they achieve success, they lack maturity because they did not grow up observing the role models of adults who have time to care and be responsible for their loved ones. Rather, expectations were directed towards them, after all, a child was treated as an investment that often had to pay off.
To illustrate this syndrome, I am attaching a video clip. He may have caught your eye on this profile in the past.
Paulina Kubś, MA
